In the proper order…

If you’re like me and hate having to flip through page after page of stuff to find out where to begin, this should be useful. Here is everything in the blog, sorted in event order, and grouped into general categories. Suggestions on how to make this better will be entertained.
History – Before the blog started

Mom’s trouble on Holiday

Involuntary Committal

Bringing Mom Home

Mom’s Home, Tries Her Meds

Mom Off Her Meds & Driving People Away

Dad Thinks She’s Getting Better, Occasionally Avoids Her

Dad Starts To Believe Her Problem Is Something Else

I Decide To Remove Myself From The Craziness

Dad Might Not Be Completely Drawn Into It

Hopefully Normalizing Relations With Dad


One Response to “In the proper order…”

  1. Wow. Thank you for witing this.
    Your family has much in common with mine.
    Separating from mom got easier when my stepdad passed away, and my dad had passed away earlier – as she lost her emotional hostage. (As first my dad and then my stepdad were.)
    Mom didn’t get away with the violence with dad, simply because even in his old age, he could be more violent than her if it came to defending himself. My poor stepdad didn’t have that. (Don’t want to go any further into it – those memories are just toxic.)
    Realization, reading through this: my mom was never satisfied when I was giving her *all* my attention, *all* the time. Now, I have been considering seeing if I could ‘get away with’ sending her two gifts a year – Christmas and Mother’s Day/Birthday.
    Truth…? No. She won’t let me ‘get away’ with it. The best thing I can do, is not start sending her Christmas gifts. I get emotionally hooked into sending her a small birthday gift. (No card, couldn’t find one – no, they don’t make them for bipolar mothers.) I hate to think of her feeling unloved – but she felt unloved when I lavished attention on her. She will feel unloved no matter what I do.
    Now if I can only (within myself, for myself) let this last gift (a small,very sweet book about how special mothers are, with a note on the inside cover telling her that I *do* love her)….stand as evidence that, yes, I really do love her – I just can’t take it any more. The lawsuits, threats, always being ready to get a restraing order….always carrying peepr spray. (Forgot til just now – I did pepper spray her once in my teens. So Iknow pepper spray can work.)
    Wow. Again – thank you so much for writing all this.

    Forestchild said this on July 9, 2008 at 3:27 am | Reply

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